Setbacks

Everyone says that healing isn’t linear and that can be such a hard pill to swallow when you have setback after setback and it feels like it’s never going to end.

I have noticed in my own journey that I have some triggers that can almost always lead to a setback.

One of my triggers is the memory of people I’m no longer in contact with, I’ve had to say goodbye to so many relationships and I have moments where I completely forget about the unhealthy and possibly toxic parts of those relationships and it makes me spiral in my mind, I start thinking that I should just contact them or start wondering if I am the one in the wrong and sit in my own negative thoughts and feelings. I have to remind myself that I need to protect my peace in order to continue healing.

Going backwards or slipping into old bad habits can feel like you don’t have control, this can lead to making impulsive decisions and doing something you regret like worrying or hurting the people you love, even though it’s not intentional you still need to be accountable to your actions.

It’s important in those moments to recognise that what you’ve done is wrong, if other people were involved that you apologise sincerely and tell them exactly where you went wrong and why you’re sorry.

Moving forward from a setback can take time, giving yourself time to recover and doing something to take your mind off the situation until you’re in a stable position to go back and deal with what ever the situation is in a healthy way!

“Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.” James‬ ‭1‬:‭2‬-‭3‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Having a setback can be a chance to build your resilience and an opportunity to learn how to deal with tough situations.